looking for advice and coments MAYBE new belted

[libbylibbylibby]

I'm new to this, so I want to give you some background and maybe some of you can give me some advice.

I have been married for 25 years. My husband was my High school sweetheart we got married when I was 20 and he was finished with college. We have one child, My son that now is grown and out of the home. We live on a small farm, in a very old farm house. We no longer have animals (except dogs) and don't grow any crops- really just a little old house and a lot of land.

We have had a “plain” sex life. We did a little bit of bondage stuff when first married, but that stopped with the birth of our son. Frankly our sex life has not been great while our sun was growing up as his bedroom is right next to ours and we have had to be very quite to avoid him overhearing.

Now that my Son is out of the home, we can do what we want when we want Problem is, my husband doesn't get aroused much anymore. A couple of years ago I had to have a D&C and they shaved my pubic area. This turned my hubby on, and I keep the area clean as a babies butt and I'm rewarded with unbelievable oral sex. I had my best girlfriend out to the house a few months ago and after a few glasses of wine, we started talking about our sex lives. This led to her telling me that she could 100% garentee the best sex I had ever had if I went along with her suggestions. We ended up raiding the barn for a bunch of bridle leather and she made cuffs for my ankles, wrists, and a thick leather choker. These were crude, and just tied together with some rawhide, but once she had me tied into them, I could not use my hands to untie myself, and that's the was she left me for my husband to find when he came home from work.

Well she was right about the sex when he got home, but what I didn't expect was how excited I got while waiting for him confined as I was. The next morning she called and we chatted like little school girls. I had no idea that she and her husband did this stuff all the time because it increased both of their sex drives. She invited her self out for Friday and arrived with some tools and hardware. Come to find out they did some armature leather work. She riveted loops on the cuffs we had made and open up the holes into slots and made the cuffs so they could be “locked” shut. We didn't have locks for them, but she had brought small “chain connectors”. I don't know what else to call them, sorta like a single chain link that has a screw apart side so you can hook any two loops together the “lock” them by screwing the one side closed. I wish I knew what to call them, Anyway, they make it impossible for me to unhook them, but someone else can fairly quickly unhook them and then hook them to something else. She also made up some straps that went over the bed legs and came up on the mattress so I could be “locked” to the bed. Which is where she left me for my husband to find.

Once again the sex was fantastic. Frankly, the best we have ever had. (don't get me wrong, my Husband is an excellent love maker and always brings me to multiple organisms. He liked it so much, that after we showered and got dressed, he put them back on me and took me to the home improvement store where he bought 6 small locks that were all keyed the same. Once back out in the car, the chain joiners were replaced with locks. I have no idea why, but this got me very excited. We went out to eat after and I was sure everyone could see my unusual bracelets (I was wearing jeans so I didn't worry about the ones on my ankles. After eating, we drove to a near by town and went into the saddlery where he found some wide heave leather straps and some brass hardware. When we got home he made a wide leather collar for me. Its just plain brown leather about 2 inches wide which he locked around my neck in the back. Again, this made me very hot for some reason and once again we had some outstanding sex. I wore the collar all weekend and we had more sex in a weekend they we had in a year. On Monday he unlocked the collar and cuffs and went off to work. This became a “special weekend” thing

My girlfriend was back out the next Friday. I showed her how the cuffs had evolved and the new collar. She was very cross with me. And made me put the collar on and locked it in place! Then he said she wanted to show me something that got Rick so turned on she couldn't believe it. She pulled off her jeans and lifted he blouse to show me a chastity belt! Now I had heard about such things, I remember my hubby kidding about locking me up in one when we were first married, but I didn't think they were really worn by people. I had no idea!

What she was wearing was something they had made. It was a wide leather belt around her waist a second belt that came between her legs. In the back one side of the waist belt had riveted so it was vertical. The other side of the belt had several slots and the belts between her legs had a couple of slots. Basically they had pulled the waist belt tight around her waist and put it over the d-ring. Then they pulled the belt between her legs up and hooked it over the same D-ring. Then a padlock was passed threw the d-ring so the two belts could not be undone.

We spent the next couple hours making one for me. The hardest thing was making the slots, but Sally knew how to do them and in the end they were done. Then the embarrassing part as she tightened the waist belt around me with no panties on and located where my “pee hole” should be. She made a hole and put a brass grommet in it so in effect I had a brass pee hole.

My husband came home that night to find me in collar, cuffs, a too small push up bra, my highest heels and a leather chastity belt. I'm surprised we didn't break the lock as many times as I was in and out of the Chasity belt that weekend. And every weekend since. Form somewhere he got a much better lock. It is heavier and takes a much better key.

That's a long way of getting to here. There have been several changes. From somewhere he got (or had made) a stainless collar that fits very tightly around my neck. It has a hidden hinge on one side and the other joins together with a hidden screw. He made a big deal about putting it on with green locktite and no one would be able to take it off short of sawing in off. When you look at it, it looks like I have a solid “silver” (polished SS) collar around my neck. He also got me similar bands for my wrists and ankles. The are very tight fitting and look like they are one piece until you find the small joint. I now have several pairs of Very very high heals. I have a larger selection of dresses and skirts to wear every weekend (with no underwear) And now we are both talking about getting a “real” chastity belt.

My biggest problem is that it seems like most things I look at are for dress-up and not for real use. I have been looking all over the internet and that is how I ended up here. While I don't believe some of what I see posted here, I believe that there are a number of you that really do wear belts full time.

Now we are are not talking about him locking me up and leaving for a month. We are more thinking that I will be able to clean up and shower every morning. This will also let me keep up my shaving as he will not give me oral sex if there is any hair down there. We really don't know what to do during my time of month. After the 2nd day, I can go 8 hours or more on a single tampon, so we are really only talking about a day or two.

(totally off subject, but do any of you actually like have sex during your period? I love it. I honestly think it makes it much easier to get thru and now a days my husband has no problem with it)

Is there anyone that makes a 24-7 belt in the US? I am assuming we will be getting something like the one we made, that is with a belt up around my waist, but I see some of the pics with belts that ride lower. I'm thinking these are more for dress up then real use. But I don't know. I have only been using this leather belt we made for a while. But I still get very aroused when I wear it. I can't help but wonder if that will be the same when I get a real belt.

I hope I will get some tips and comments from some of you that wear a belt for long times

Thanks!

Libby

[molly]

Welcome to the group Libby!

Leather is easily cut and absorbs perspiration and personal fluids so it's better suited for decorative belts worn for short amounts of time. I would consider those types of belts hot and kinky fun belts.

For long term wear, stainless is the way to go as it's durable, resists stains and corrosion, and holds it's shape fairly well. 302 is basic stainless, lower cost than the other grades, easy to work with and has decent anti-corrosion properties. 302 is what most eBay belts are made of, no matter the country of origin. 304 stainless, which my belt is made of, has more corrosion resistance than 302, has a little more spring to it which retains it's formed shape, and was more difficult to cut, drill and machine as compared to 302. 316 is medical stainless and has the most resistance to corrosion but isn't easy to drill, cut, bend and it's not very springy so it makes for a truly rigid belt, everything else (thickness and dimensions) being the same in comparisons.

I don't particularly like hip belts because they chafe my skin when I run, do yoga, and other physical activities (I'm very flexible still) whereas waist belts don't do that as much so my custom belt was designed to fit around my natural waist where I'm the narrowest. My custom belt is also made of thicker stainless, sized to me and was welded together so there's no adjustment points. I have to manage my BMI very tightly or it gets too snug in a hurry.

To your off-topic question, I'm almost always in the mood every day no matter what time of month it is, but my husband considers "red sex" as he calls it, very disgusting so he doesn't unlock me during my period for sexual purposes. He will so I can change tampons and clean up and such.

You might find my blog on this website interesting. I'm a full time belt wearer and have been for 16 years, and my husband designed my belt (he's an engineer) and had it manufactured to spec at a local shop. We also use a digital key system that's managed by a computer so my key can't open my belt unless my husband tells the computer that it can. That lets him give my key access when I need it and he's not available to unlock me because he's at work or on a business trip, or out with his friends.

[libbylibbylibby]

I'm going to put this here because I don't see reason to open another thread. I mentioned in my original post that I didn't believe all these posts were true. Well the more I read thru older posts the more doubt I have. So many posts go with the idea that they are locked in and can not possibly get out of their belt. Bull shit.

A bunch of years ago I bought my husband a Dremal Mototool. It came in a neat kit with a bunch of cool looking attachments I thought he would surely have a thousand uses for this... And it sat for about ten years completely un used. Then he suddenly got the idea of using the little drum sander thing to help my son shape a pinewood derby car. We had sawdust all over the house. What a mess. So it went back in hiding. Then a number of years ago he was trying to restore an old Honda and stripped a bunch of screw heads. Suddenly he remembered there were some small thin cut off disks in that Mototool kit. Well those disks cut thru the screws like they were butter. Suddenly he had a tool he could not be without. And I remember looking all over to get replacement disks for him because they break very easy. But they cut anything. My son had a lock on his bike that went thru the wheel so the bike could not be ridden and the front wheel could not be removed. Of course he lost the key. Well that super special lock only lasted a few seconds under the Mototool and the cut off wheel! We have cut master locks off gates and cut thru hardened steel pins with that thing.

So for all those claiming to be "trapped", go to the nearest home improvement store and for $30 you will be free. On top of that I see most of these things use small padlocks that won't keep your jewelry box secure let alone your special spot. Let's face it ladies, it more like I can't get out of it without him knowing it.

Libby

[libbylibbylibby]

Thank you for the quick response. As I mentioned in my first post, we just have the leather belt for "dress up" weekends and we want to replace it with one of SS. About the only thing I know about stainless is that Chinaese isn't. I'm guessing that they don't put enough of whatever makes it not rust in China

Any way we want SS and we want to get something made to order so it fits ME. I'm hoping we don't have to go to Germany to get that. I'm a little bit afraid that we won't get the measurements right. My OH suggested that we take pics as we make each measurement so whoever we send it to can see how we measured. I'm also a little concerned that we get one really made to my measurements not a "custom" that represents the closest thing they normally have in stock. I see some with chains holding the croch piece. My though is that those may be more comfortable to walk around it but it just doesn't seem like they would be "safe". That sounds so stupid as I reread it. This thing is just for a turn on not to keep me from cheating on him, but I think it would be more of a turn on if you can't just move it out of the way.

So as of right now we are thinking this will have a straight waist band, be made of all stainless, and have a solid band that goes between my legs (is there a special name for that part?). I don't think I have seen anyone advertise what kind of steel is in their offering so I guess that is something I have to ask

One good thing, just talking about buying this gets my hubby hard and I have had a lot of great sex even if it isn't dress up weekend! On the down side there was that yeast infection...

Libby

[Tobbe]

Hi Libby!
Of course you can get the chastity belt removed with the right tools and some time, but it will be noticed that you made it! Therefore, it is an agreement between the key holder and the person wearing the belt, to never destroy it. Leather is as Molly says no good options. The only right is a chastity belt of stainless steel. It will work for many years and can be worn 24/7 with breaks for cleaning.

It may sound unlikely to you, but several women wearing chastity belts for more than a weekend.

[libbylibbylibby]

Oh I know there are many that wear a belt beyond a dress up weekend. And I hope you all understand that when I get my real belt I will be wearing it most of the time. At least to start, it will easier for me because the plan is that I will be out of it for a short while each morning. Except I just thought of something. My hubby goes up to Canada fishing every summer and I'm sure once I get a real belt he will leave me in it for that 2 weeks. Same goes for hunting session in November. Maybe I can convince him to leave the key with Sally so I can still get some housekeeping done. At very least so I can mow the grass before he comes home. Since I started shaving he hates it if there is even a little stubble down there

Off subject again, but have any of you tried the "No No" hair removal thing they advertise on TV for mowing the garden? I have tried some of the cream hair remover (Nair) but it burned like a bitch the one time I tried it so I never tried again

While I'm off subject I might ask about another thing that recently came up. I have read a number of stories about having something lock up inside you. I guess I'm a prude, but I have never had anything in there other then a tampon or my husband. Other then when I was a teenager, I have never done anything to my self for plesure. Anyway my hubby was talking about a couple of steel balls up inside me. I guess they are popular in fiction and ad aisle over the counter in the porn places down on 8 mile. I'm guessing with this group that someone has had experience with them. He talking about putting them in me then putting me in the belt and going out shopping dinner and maybe a movie (he gets a huge turn on right now by having put on a skirt over the belt (no undies) and taking me shoe shopping. Of course we never find anything with more then about 4" heels but gets a huge charge that someone might see my belt. I currently have a couple pairs of heels that he had custom made that are much higher then 4".

Libby

[molly]

Libby,

On a daily basis I live the answers to some of your questions. My husband locks things inside me all the time. While my blog is long, the two of you might get some ideas from it and see what you might be in for. If anything, you might get a giggle or two. He made me two solid stainless dildos, one I will call medium-sized and the other really pushes me to my limits as far as size and weight (about 6lbs). He also made a stainless dingle ball which is a little smaller than a lemon but is hollow and has a few bearings inside that rattle around as I move, giving me tons of sexual sensations. If you're close to me and the room is very quiet, you could hear them rattle inside me.

I misquoted the stainless of my belt in my earlier post. It's 330, not 304. Sorry I messed that up.

My belt has a very big padlock - an Abus 83/45 - and that lock was chosen because it was the smallest lock that could be purchased without a lock core, so we could insert a digital core. The way it works out is my husband's digital key always works, and mine only works if he allows it to.

Here's my blog if you're interested: viewtopic.php?f=27&t=433

[libbylibbylibby]

Thanks Molly

I read and re read your blog thank you for sharing it with us. My OH got very turned on reading it and played a little get me ready to cum then stop. Most manning He even trot to tease me to the edge and put me in the belt but as soon as the belt touched my clit I came like a teenager. I should mention that my girlfriend Sally is reading this forum with great interest bu not posting. She and her husband are also thinking of going up to a real belt.

This has been a very different weekend for me but I'm not site this is the place to share it. I'll tell more durring the week when I have my hands free

Libby

[libbylibbylibby]

Has anyone ever delt with Lovebelt? I got a PM with some images attached of belts he claims to have made and is offering to made us custom belts. problem is I do not see any posts that he has made.

http://www.chastitybabes.com/archives/1395
http://www.chastitybabes.com/archives/277
http://www.chastitybabes.com/archives/178
http://www.chastitybabes.com/archives/733

If this is legit it could be a great answer for me and maybe Sally, my friend that got me into this whole thing When I looked at the pics I was thinking they were from My Steel

[molly]

Has anyone ever delt with Lovebelt?

Can't say that I have...

I got a PM with some images attached of belts he claims to have made and is offering to made us custom belts. problem is I do not see any posts that he has made.

I don't know if that person and their offer is legitimate or not, but I'm a natural skeptic so I would be wary. I couldn't google my way to a web presence or a storefront, but that doesn't mean too much because people make stuff in their basements all the time and a lot of it is plenty legitimate. I see that a lot of kinky events and fetish-cons - some of the vendors who buy booths make great stuff but have no websites or LLC status or anything else. But, I can look through and touch their wares and see the quality they brought.