Totally Rediculous

[Robert Pinkerton]

About teasing and denial: When I was much younger, I experienced this as victim in a matter wholly unrelated to anything sexual. What this taught me, is that nothing less than the vilest cruelty that can exist among sentient beings, is to raise false hopes.

Our Jewish fellow Earth-walkers have the clearest iteration of the Golden Rule, per Hillel: "What is hateful to you, do not unto another."

[Pyra Gorgon]

I find myself agreeing with the OP first post.

There is nothing made by mankind that cannot be unmade. Furthermore, those who look at a chastity belt as some sort of "impossible to remove" object, will be sorely disappointed. (unless she is naïve beyond measure, kept in a empty cage, and dumber than a box of rocks, a clever woman will figure a way out for sure!)

No, the BEST way to make a chastity belt for a woman inescapable is to make her not WANT to escape.

For me, if my man loved and cherished me, and I love, trust, admire, and respect him for the man he is, and I know that my sexual needs are always fulfilled by him (may not be MY time table, but they are getting met adequately), and I know that it pleases him greatly for me to wear a chastity belt he put on me; then that chastity belt can be held closed with nothing more than a paperclip and I would not remove it. To do otherwise would be a breach of trust, respect, and it would hurt the man I love. No, I would fight to keep the belt from being removed in an unauthorized manner.

Put me into any situation where the above is not being met, well, the dice and my mood will dictate the outcome.

I would never wear a chastity belt for a man I did not love, trust, admire and respect. To me, there is more than just the thrill of a kink thing. I do not consider a chastity belt kinky. I guess some do, but for me, no, I do not view it as such. It is a symbol of commitment and trust. (with a bit of spice to it

[dashingdarla]

I am offended by your silly remark.HAH! Putting ME in "steel gauntlets" IU would like to see you try.How PERVERSE can YOU be? Typical male thinking.You sound so nasty to me.I am not "into bdsm" perversion.I live a pretty normal life."So there".You obviously have no respect for women.

My, how boringly petulant. All you've done is demonstrate your lack of respect of others and in turn, yourself.

I am into the BDSM "perversion" and I enjoy it immensely as I have for most of my adult life. So has my husband of 35 years. In a BDSM context, I'm also his Master, he's my slave, and I own him. Through our agreement/contract I make all the decisions, I'm the sole breadwinner, and he obeys me to the point of absolutes. It is *HE* who wears the female chastity belts, not me. I'm happy, he's happy. And we've been happy together for 35 years as I said above.

Not everyone desires a cottage, 2.3 kids, a white picket fence and a dog named Skippy. The difference between you (proclaimed normal) and I (accused perverse) is I find no harm or foul in acknowledging we're different and leaving it at that without placing any judgment upon you. Be happy, it's all good.

I apologise, you are correct a woman should never be a victim, I have amended the post.

No one should ever be a victim.

I do not consider a chastity belt kinky. I guess some do, but for me, no, I do not view it as such. It is a symbol of commitment and trust. (with a bit of spice to it

In my relationship, my husband's chastity belt serves several purposes. It's a symbol, it's a reminder of our agreement, and it's a behavior control device.

Too, I believe that, in order properly to respect life, one must take it finally seriously, and I acknownedge that this induces disposition to take seriously: Learning not to take BDSM seriously was a venture into the counterintuitive. Still, much of it is "castles in the air."

Unfortunately, the BDSM community (like any community, organization or group), has a portion of membership who participates for the wrong reason(s). They seek something they cannot find elsewhere and generally have no idea what it is they are even seeking. Many of them are looking for nothing more than wank fodder. Some thrive on doing things that normal people can't even imagine exists.

I see them pass through all the time and unfortunately they get hurt emotionally and/or physically, then deem the community as a whole "bad" because of the one or more unpleasant experiences they chose to walk into uninformed. There is a small subset of membership who are predators who take pleasure in making those experiences possible for their own reasons, and again, likely not having a clue what those reasons are.

Regardless of labels, associations, membership and relationships, some people just aren't "good".

[isa71m]

No, the BEST way to make a chastity belt for a woman inescapable is to make her not WANT to escape.
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I would never wear a chastity belt for a man I did not love, trust, admire and respect. To me, there is more than just the thrill of a kink thing. I do not consider a chastity belt kinky. I guess some do, but for me, no, I do not view it as such. It is a symbol of commitment and trust. (with a bit of spice to it

I totally agree: I consider it a gift to my loving and caring partner.

[virginitysaving]

My, how boringly petulant. All you've done is demonstrate your lack of respect of others and in turn, yourself.

I am into the BDSM "perversion" and I enjoy it immensely as I have for most of my adult life. So has my husband of 35 years. In a BDSM context, I'm also his Master, he's my slave, and I own him. Through our agreement/contract I make all the decisions, I'm the sole breadwinner, and he obeys me to the point of absolutes. It is *HE* who wears the female chastity belts, not me. I'm happy, he's happy. And we've been happy together for 35 years as I said above.

Fine, but this discussion is dedicated to female chastity. Have you (not your husband) ever worn a chastity device?
Otherwise I tend to agree with Lizza.

[MindDevourer]

i think chastity belts are more some sort of physical reminder. If someone wants to submit their orgasms, there is usually no belt needed at all, to keep the people from orgasming.

On top of that, physical chastity belts often have additional roles - the feeling of wearing one. Feeling "safe and secure".


When it comes to preventing someone from orgasming, there may be other ways that work pretty well. One of them i mentioned here some times ago: Erotic hypnosis to control orgasms.


But as mentioned, often the belts are used or worn for very different reasons.

[Pyra Gorgon]

To each their own, I suppose.

What works for some, may not be so hot for another. THAT is tolerance. I tolerate the typical cry and hue of BDSM'ers because I really have no choice, and it is not my place to decide that for them. Let them eat cake for all I care.

But tolerating is not the same thing as accepting. To demand tolerance and acceptance yet not return the favor is what I find RIDICULOUS.

Anyways, on to female chastity...

So, MindDevourer, how does this hypnosis work? Half the time I leave my brain in a safe place away from hypnotists, so what then? hehehe

[dashingdarla]

Have you (not your husband) ever worn a chastity device?

Not since the 70's, but yes.

Fine, but this discussion is dedicated to female chastity.

Fair enough, though this section of the website is called "Female chastity belt building/modification", and that's why I joined. I've made a lot of belts over the years out of different materials (leather, canvas, mild steel, aluminum, even carbon fiber) and I've never gotten the patterns right and ended up with chafe and pinch spots. This is why I'm so interested in Pyra's patterning article.

The only reason why I shared what I did was to make a point to Lizza that her initial outburst and ones like it in the future could be hurtful to others due to her expressed lack of tolerance. Obviously, that point was lost when I received her "shut up and be quiet" response and that's fine, it is what it is.

Intolerance is a hot button for me, as I've spent easily 40 years furthering tolerance through education, public speaking, activism, organizations and demonstrations. I long for the day where we can tolerate each other's differences, for I believe with great passion, none of us are truly free until we do.

Anyway, I am here to improve my ability in making female chastity belts. Whether my creations end up on a men, women or pumpkins, I think is kind of secondary.

[virginitysaving]

Not since the 70's, but yes.

Than why did you stop wearing it? Even though you keep your husband belted what's wrong to keep yourself wearing one?

[dashingdarla]

Than why did you stop wearing it? Even though you keep your husband belted what's wrong to keep yourself wearing one?

I just don't because for me, it's a symbol of ownership. Back in the day I used that symbol (and wore a shiny belt over my jeans) to say "my body, my choice" while picketing politicians as part of various demonstrations, and today, my husband wears it for a different slant of the same reason - "his body, my choice".

Most people wear chastity belts for other reasons. This happens to be mine.