What stage of chastity wear process is going on here???
Re: What stage of chastity wear process is going on here???
it is always going to be an up hill battle when your partner really does not get the point of it.
Re: What stage of chastity wear process is going on here???
I remember a movie by the spanish director Luis Bunuel, That Obscure Object of Desire, who tells the story of a aged man who falls in love with a young lady who repeatedly frustrates his sexual desires. One of the way she uses to do it is to wear an impenetrable panty girdle, that is clearly a methaphor of a chastity belt.gotsteel wrote:WestsideLady wrote: If you belt while you are with him.. he sees it a barrier..
I agree, wearing a CB outside a relationship is likely to become a serious problem for an embrional relationship, while it can become very useful to wear it after the relationship has consolidated...
Isabella
Re: What stage of chastity wear process is going on here???
Hi Pyra,
I am sorry I am late to this discussion.
First, thank you for your posts on improving the design and execution of the chinese belts. I think it is a serious contribution and improvement to the state of the chastity art.
Second, I think your analysis of the parallels among the stages of grief, stages of change, and potential states of chastity belt wear is very insightful. It has given me a lot to reflect on about my own experience.
I am sorry that your current boyfriend does not see any use for your chastity experience. Even if it is of no direct benefit to him, I would hope that he would encourage it for the joy or other good feelings that it brings you. If he objects to being with you when you are belted perhaps there is a compromise with you wearing when you are apart and unbelted when you are together. Ideally, of course, he would hold your keys when you are apart simply for the sense of being controlled that it might give you even though he has no emotional investment in that control.
Finding an emotionally engaged keyholder seems to be very difficult but I have been able to to find a couple people in my history willing to hold keys and enforce the "rule of the belt" as a favor to me even though it was of no special interest to them.
I hope this fins you well.
Respectfully,
705
I am sorry I am late to this discussion.
First, thank you for your posts on improving the design and execution of the chinese belts. I think it is a serious contribution and improvement to the state of the chastity art.
Second, I think your analysis of the parallels among the stages of grief, stages of change, and potential states of chastity belt wear is very insightful. It has given me a lot to reflect on about my own experience.
I am sorry that your current boyfriend does not see any use for your chastity experience. Even if it is of no direct benefit to him, I would hope that he would encourage it for the joy or other good feelings that it brings you. If he objects to being with you when you are belted perhaps there is a compromise with you wearing when you are apart and unbelted when you are together. Ideally, of course, he would hold your keys when you are apart simply for the sense of being controlled that it might give you even though he has no emotional investment in that control.
Finding an emotionally engaged keyholder seems to be very difficult but I have been able to to find a couple people in my history willing to hold keys and enforce the "rule of the belt" as a favor to me even though it was of no special interest to them.
I hope this fins you well.
Respectfully,
705